Like so many things in life, the benefits and issues that present themselves in certain situations are not apparent until we take a step into something unknown to us. Like when we were younger, our parents would try and guide us, protecting and nurturing us as we journeyed through our young life. Every pitfall or potential danger was avoided due to the protection that our parents gave us without us even being aware. As we grew, we started making our own decisions and choices – sometimes those choices would be good, bringing with them the joy that we perceived and planned them to be, on other occasions there were times when things didn’t work out quite as we expected and we learned from these; making our choices moving forward more informed and decidedly ending in a better outcome, but these choices, good or bad, were always our own choice and under our complete control.
So, why have I started this blog with that thought at the forefront of my mind, because for me, I believe that it’s not dissimilar to the way we now find ourselves having to meet people in 2022 in the pursuit of finding that special person, to love, laugh with and share those special moments.
Walking to the pub, late night bars and clubs are now a thing of the past – even more so after the pandemic. So, we now find ourselves gravitating to online dating or dating apps, where the protection from the pitfalls and dangers of life - the very things we had been protected from, firstly by our parents and in turn discovered by our own life experiences seem to be our only option. In these online dating arenas and dating apps we start sharing every detail about our life - photos, phone numbers, where we live, what we like, the list goes on and on - it’s incredibly scary when we think about it. When desire to meet someone outweighs our rational thinking this is when we throw caution to the wind and we find ourselves thinking ‘I’ll give it a go, what’s the worst that can happen’ and hit the upload button. When we do this, we are instantly exposing ourselves to all the dangers that go with it - the very thing that our parents, and in turn ourselves, have worked so hard to stay protected from over the years, in our pursuit to find love. With over 1 million false identities online and the constant threat from people such as ‘The Tinder Swindler’ it really does highlight the limited ways available to us in 2022 to meet a loving companion – why else would we take such risks and waste so much of our precious time?
So, I hear you ask, if not online dating what are the alternatives? After all, I’ve just pointed out that the options are greatly reduced now to find our one, true love. Well, the great news is that there is another way and it’s called Personal Matchmaking.
Personal Matchmaking was and still is an incredibly successful way of meeting that special person that we are looking for. Although since the boom of online dating occurred, sadly Personal Matchmaking seemed to get forgotten about. Instead, we turned our eyes to the fashionable world of online dating, believing that we held all the keys and were in complete control of our destiny. We found ourselves getting enticed by the seemingly instant gratification that dating apps appeared to give us, the little gimmicks of swiping left or right, the thought that we could find our future love at the end of our fingertips seemed enthralling to us all. Never did we stop think of the wasted time and dangers that awaited us, after all, everybody did it, that was and is precisely the problem – everybody is doing it - not just the people we envisage replying to a text. There are no filters to check on identity, fraud or criminal history, just filters for hair colour, build, height - all the superficial things that society have brainwashed us to believe we want. Don’t get me wrong, attraction and connection are hugely important, but these alone don’t lead to love. As human beings we connect with each other on so many levels – our minds, interests, work, pleasures, aspirations to name but a few.
Personal Matchmaking was and still is an incredibly successful way of meeting that special person that we are looking for. Although since the boom of online dating occurred, sadly Personal Matchmaking seemed to get forgotten about. Instead, we turned our eyes to the fashionable world of online dating, believing that we held all the keys and were in complete control of our destiny. We found ourselves getting enticed by the seemingly instant gratification that dating apps appeared to give us, the little gimmicks of swiping left or right, the thought that we could find our future love at the end of our fingertips seemed enthralling to us all. Never did we stop think of the wasted time and dangers that awaited us, after all, everybody did it, that was and is precisely the problem – everybody is doing it - not just the people we envisage replying to a text. There are no filters to check on identity, fraud or criminal history, just filters for hair colour, build, height - all the superficial things that society have brainwashed us to believe we want. Don’t get me wrong, attraction and connection are hugely important, but these alone don’t lead to love. As human beings we connect with each other on so many levels – our minds, interests, work, pleasures, aspirations to name but a few.
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