Are you new to dating, perhaps after a long marriage or relationship and feel a bit daunted by it all?If so we can help and as an experienced Personal Matchmaker here are my top 5 tips to get you started. Don't forget too that we are here to talk things through with and your initial inquiry is always free. So phone us on 0800 644 6130.
For most of us who find ourselves single, we are unattached because we have had a significant previous relationship behind us. If the ending of that caused us some pain we need time to heal. There is no set amount of time to allow for this - the amount of time varies considerably between individuals. You may have been dealing with the separation from a loved one over a lengthy period as the relationship could be seen to be ending – perhaps through illness or through other reasons. Whereas for others, when a relationship comes to an end it can be a real shock to the system.Wherever you are coming from emotionally, take time to make sure you are ready to move forwards. If not, work at releasing any negative feelings, perhaps of bitterness or anger and form an idea of what you want as well as don’t want in a new partner.
Think through how you are most likely to meet the right sort of person. You can consider contacts through your current social circle but sometimes it seems as if everyone you know is already part of a couple, especially if your current friends are those you knew when you were in a former relationship. So explore ways of extending your social circle – take up a new hobby perhaps, try evening classes which are likely to appeal to both men and women and try out other forms of meeting genuine and suitable singles such as singles events through whenthemusicstops.com or through our personal matchmaking services.Remember, the more options you explore the higher your chances of success but always do what feels safe and comfortable for you.
Remember that everyone can be a little nervous when meeting new people and we usually come across better once we have started to get to know someone a little and have time to relax in their company. There’s not always raging chemistry immediately but if you meet someone who has a similar approach to life and shared values its worth at least a follow up date to see if attraction develops as you get to know them better.
The old saying "you cannot judge a book by it's cover" really does hold true when it comes to dating and searching for a new partner. A photo can be misleading - either better than real life in some instances or sometimes not as good as the impression you will get when meeting someone face to face. Not everyone is photogenic but they can still be very physically attractive in the flesh. Attractiveness comes as a package too; it's not just how someone looks but how they relate to us, their tone of voice, the way they choose to dress and often, if they make us smile. Psychologists say it is even down to how we smell. So if we send you a profile, look at it as a whole and aim to meet up with those we suggest to you as you cannot really tell if someone is attractive until you meet them!
Don’t get too focused on finding a lovely new partner. Make sure you also allow yourself time to see friends and to enjoy a good social life as a single person. Being happy and well connected with friends is important and anyway, living your life to the full makes you more attractive to others.
Once we have discussed and understand your specific requirements, we will be able to recommend a suitable, tailor-made membership package with bespoke fees for you.
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